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Are you one of those who pass judgment on others? What goes into your head when you start assessing others? When you begin to judge someone, what are your basis and process? One of the simplest ways to gauge your own worth is by judging other people. Always remember that once you start judging other people, it somehow shows who you are as a person. What you say to others can be a reflection of yourself. Unless it’s a “constructive criticism,” it moves others backward and not forward.
Seek the beauty in other people. There exist a spark of divinity in everyone. Hence, no one is inherently evil. There is always a good thing in someone’s heart. You appreciate it because you want to raise the value of something, and judging others depreciates it.
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When you pass judgment on others, you are essentially evaluating yourself, implying that you perceive others the same way you see yourself. When you begin to appreciate yourself for who you are, you will naturally begin to appreciate others for who they are. Thus, working on yourself enables you to gain a better perspective on and perception of others. Thus, when you pass judgment on others, you are legally passing judgment on yourself. What does this imply? This means that individuals project who they genuinely are.
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We are told in certain spiritual books that what we do to others, we do to ourselves. That alone should serve as a reminder to abstain from passing judgment on others. One of the simplest ways to gauge your own worth is to pass judgment on others.
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One of the methods, techniques, or secrets for avoiding self-judgment is to refrain from judging others. The other risk associated with passing judgment on people is that you will find yourself in a negative world. By entering the world of judging others, you are dragging yourself into a space of negativity that is detrimental to your well-being. Do you truly wish to enter the world of negativity? And if you don’t, if the answer is no, it should serve as a sufficient drive in and of itself. Avoid passing judgment on people.
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A biblical commandment stated in Matthew 7:1 states that, “thou shalt not judge.” Thus, we are reminded that judgment is unacceptable and that passing judgment on others is not your calling. This is not a part of your mission. It should not be on your agenda because it is completely ineffective. Thus, one method of self-reminder is through that commandment. Because there are moments when a spiritual reminder, a tactical reminder, or a strategic reminder is required.
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Another technique to avoid judging others is to remind yourself that they are an extension of you, not separate from you. Therefore, if they are an extension of you, which is also a spiritual truth, then I should love this extension, not condemn it, and I should refrain from hating or judging them per se, because they are a vital part of who you are. Thus, if you appreciate the concept, or the idea, that we are all one, you will be jolted out of your mindset of wanting to be extremely judgmental.
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If the world reflects who we are, then perhaps there is something. Indeed, as previously stated, there is something being emphasized, something being brought to your notice, and all you need to do is be vigilant, aware, and address it. Thus, when you focus on yourself, this part of not judging others, you gain an opportunity to become a more refined human being, which is a desirable state to be in.
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Each human being possesses unique characteristics. And when you seek out the good and the beauty in people, you are not passing judgment; you are appreciating. Appreciation is not a kind of judgment. It is what it is; you are appreciating, raising the value of something, and contributing positive energy to the universe’s dynamic.
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The notion of “caught someone doing something good” is a strong one. It is a principle that you may carry forward, across the line, across your life, through your career, through your management, through your business, and seek for the virtues and beauty in others, for the world of beauty in others – your children, your wife, your husband, in your buddy. Even dictators have some redeeming qualities. Because sometimes all we look for is what they did wrong. Nobody is completely bad, evil, or whatever you want to call them. There is always something positive about it since, as previously stated, we all possess a spark of divinity, which serves as the foundation for goodness.
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There are two schools of thought: those who believe that mankind is simply sinful, that humanity is about seeing and reading and all these awful things; and those who believe that humanity is simply good. Another school of thought holds the belief that humanity is ruled by kindness, by divine. Even what someone does incorrectly is temporary because it is not a representation of who they truly are. We are blessed with a portion that is brimming with goodness, divine goodness. Therefore, if you adopt that idea or principle, you will begin to view individuals through those lenses.
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Constructive feedback is the type of feedback that propels an individual forward, not backward. Not to remain in their current positions. Because judgment is a message that remains in place. However, constructive input comprises identifying areas that can be improved in the future, assisting you in accomplishing goals, or correcting errors that could harm you in the future.
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