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Our upbringing plays a significant role in our approach to life as we grow older. The constant comparisons and criticisms shaped how we view others and ourselves. How did can these scenarios negatively affect a person? It starts the moment you start judging yourself. By judging yourself more, you manifest those negative energies and can turn out to be reality.
It corrupts your entire being, mentally and spiritually, down to your self-esteem. Instead of reinforcing positivity and complimenting yourself on the good things, focusing on the negative can ultimately diminish your productivity. Recognize that you are amazing and constantly craving to evolve yourself to become a better person. While it’s great to celebrate the success of others, you deserve to be celebrated as well!
Self-Judgment
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Now, in essence, self-judgment is not a positive emotion; it is a negative emotion. Each idea you have, each perception you have, affects your health, whether positive or harmful. And each negative emotion, it’s as if it injects poison into your system. And, of course, if you inject venom into your system, you will suffer severe consequences.
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If you truly value your health, you must minimize self-judgment. Research has proven that your body naturally gets weak when you think about a negative thought. And when you believe in positive thinking, your body automatically becomes stronger. Thus, if you evaluate yourself, which is a negative mindset, your body is naturally weakened. And if your body is depleted, your health will suffer, not improve.
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Self-criticism is also terrible since it harms your psyche. You have no time to think about your dreams, no time to make plans, no time to make sales calls, no time to write that novel or book you’ve meant to write. You must be conscious of all of this and its genuine impact on your psyche.
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Self-criticism erodes one’s self-esteem. Self-criticism and self-judgment are not positive self-talk; Those are negative self-talk. And we all know that feeling bad about oneself is a significant indication of low or negative self-esteem. Imagine judging yourself. You hate yourself. Complimenting yourself or doing something good for someone else should naturally boost your self-esteem. Self-judgment immediately lowers your self-esteem.
How to Reduce Self Judgement
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You must be forgiving of yourself. That is to say, making a mistake is not the end of the world. Therefore, you must learn to forgive yourself and say, “I’m sorry I did that.” You’re transmitting an emotion, a mentality that this has occurred, and it’s time to go on. Individuals find it slightly simpler to forgive others than to forgive themselves. You deserve to love and cherish yourself, and you deserve to accept yourself as you are. And that one of the keys to doing so is making a sincere decision to forgive yourself.
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You owe it to yourself to be kind to yourself and recognize your importance in the world. You are who you are, and you are entitled to the highest possible state of health. And because it is the case for humans, we are aware that a mistake has occurred. That is not the end of your story. It’s merely a reminder of what you need to change.
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Forgive others because someone might say something to you now. And then you use that as a measure to assess yourself harshly. Forgive them; they have no idea why they are speaking.
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Pursuing a breakthrough does not imply that you are broken. Pursuing a breakthrough entails progressing to the next level. And that is to overcome whatever was impeding you. That is the case. It’s just things that slow you down, holds you back, or gets in your way. You are who you are, and that is perfectly OK. And that is ideal. Therefore, you must always think in this manner, view yourself in this manner, respect yourself in this manner, and always remember that you are not broken. Indeed. It’s just that you’re looking for a tremendous breakthrough in terms of whatever is preventing you from standing.
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You’re amazing. You are God’s child, not broken. You are not hurt if you want a breakthrough. You seek advancement. Even champions are always looking up. They are not broken because they want to improve, just like you are evolving to become a better version of yourself, the best version of yourself. It should act as a reminder that you are on the trip and deserve a breakthrough rather than a hindrance.
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Celebrate who you are. You are you and what you are. And you are flawless. Once you begin to celebrate who you are rather than feeling sorry for yourself. God made us uniquely for us to work cooperatively and to bring heaven to earth. And no human being possesses all of these characteristics. However, in God’s wisdom, he saw that we require a variety of characters and personalities to produce a magical key on planet earth. Just as when creating a feast, we do not need a single spice or piece of food.
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While it is acceptable to celebrate others, we must also remember to celebrate ourselves. And the difficulty is that sometimes we enjoy praising what others accomplish that we are incapable of. Which in turn makes us feel horrible. The more you appreciate yourself and who you are, the easier it is to celebrate with others. The more you value yourself and your uniqueness, the more you love others.
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By feeling better about yourself and judging yourself less, you’ll find yourself judging others less. The easier it is to celebrate yourself, the easier it is to honor others. If you’re in a lot of mental pain and emotional regret, you’ve projected that energy onto the people around you and the rest of the world. Thus, when you improve, the rest of the world improves; when you deteriorate, the rest of the world disintegrates.
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You’re reflecting on your errors, losses, and misfortunes. And you forget that even seemingly unimportant failures have lessons. Errors are full of messages. So why not look for messages in mistakes and lessons in losses? Focus on the gains rather than the losses. Once you’ve done that, self-criticism becomes a time for learning, growth, and expansion. That is progressing to a higher level; you will discover new abilities, insights, and perspectives. Then you’ll learn you’re capable of expanding in ways you never imagined. Rather than being presented with a model of self-judgment, consider switching to a situation of self-education.
Key Advice
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Remember, forgive yourself; you’re not broken. You’re looking for a breakthrough. Celebrate who you are. Look for lessons, not losses, and look for mistakes and messages. And most importantly, you deserve to be you and thank God for who you are without judging yourself moment by moment.
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