In this episode, we are going to talk about boosting our self-esteem. We will discuss tips and advice about boosting and improving our Self-Esteem using the Five-Step Model and other Effective Strategies. Discover your Gift [2:39] One trick to boosting your confidence and self-esteem is discovering your gift. It’s one of the key turning points in boosting your self-esteem. So figure out what your gift is and work on it. What is Self-Esteem? [3:55] When you have high self-esteem, it means you have positive feelings about yourself. And when you have low self-esteem, it means you have negative feelings about yourself. It’s also about belief and confidence in your own ability and value and how you feel about yourself. Self-Worth [4:18] In determining the key differences in confidence, there is positive pride, self-regard, and self-worth. The key thing about confidence is SELF-WORTH, which is asking, “Do you feel worthy?” Why is Self-esteem Important? [4:51] One of the biggest gifts we can give to humanity is to see how we build the self-esteem of our children. Self-esteem enables you to like and value yourself as a person. Look back and think about how you are raising children or relating to young people because they are very sensitive. And their self-esteem is still being formed, especially between the age of two and nine. Whatever you feed them stays with them for the rest of their lives. [5:52] With self-esteem, you can make decisions, assert yourself in confidence, and have confidence in your ability and value. You’re also able to recognize your strengths. And you will be able to try out new or difficult things because you feel worthy. You also have this faith and belief that you can engage in new things, get going, and show kindness towards yourself and others. Core Strategies to Improve your Self-Esteem Self-Development [7:11] Self-development in both soft and technical skills is extremely important. Pay Attention to your Environment [7:40] The people you are with or the people you engage will determine what sort of mental, emotional, and spiritual psyche you will have around you. Part of that is the people you hang around and the information you have access to. You have to also run away from negative people and hang around positive people and consume positive information. Look Forward [8:37] You have to stay away from self-pity as much as possible. Learn from past failures, but don’t dwell on them. Start creating the future. The key thing is to be forward-looking, be very positive, and know that tomorrow will be better. Don’t lose hope, whatever the case may be. Sense of Achievement [9:45] Set achievable goals, celebrate the small wins, and count your blessings. Always include the small successes. People disregard the tiny achievements. One of the best gifts you can give to yourself is counting the small achievements, however small they may be, and celebrate that. Count your Blessings [10:58] Count your blessings one by one. Self-esteem is about how you’re feeling about yourself. So when you feel good, then your self-esteem is higher. And when we feel bad, we are missing something, or we’ve messed up something, we get low self-esteem. But if you start counting your blessings one by one, you will be amazed at what you have had in your life. Make Friends [12:14] Another key to boosting your self-esteem is relations. Make friends who make you better. And to attract positive friends, be positive about yourself. Be the person that makes people feel better about themselves, and they will make you feel better about yourself. If you make people feel better about themselves, you will also feel better about yourself. But if you are a toxic kind of person, then people will and want to pay you back with that toxicity. Acceptance [13:06] Be honest with yourself. Accept who you are, embrace your uniqueness, acknowledge your imperfections, and let go of the judgments inside of you. You have to accept who you are and accept your uniqueness. [14:02] God created us in a unique way. Someone is different from you. You are special and unique because no one has your DNA, thumbprints, or any other characteristics that you have. You are created for a special purpose and reason. You have to embrace that and know that you’re not meant to be someone else. If you weren’t unique, then there wouldn’t have been a need for you to be on this planet. God made you add someone who will add value to the world. So you have to celebrate that and embrace that. Steps to Improve your Self-Esteem Step 1: Awareness [14:55] What are your positive and negative triggers? Triggers are the things that make you feel excited, and they are those things that pull you down. So you need to know the things that turn you off or that turn you on. Step 2: Manage your Story [15:21] Once you know what turns you off or on, then you need to manage your own story. You need to appreciate yourself the way you are. There’s an African proverb that says, “If there is no enemy within the enemy out today, I will do you no harm.” The enemy within is the negative story we tell ourselves. The people around you do not tell negative stories about you. It’s what you choose to tell yourself and what you choose to believe. So start revisiting stories you’re telling yourself day in and day out. You can choose to retell yourself a different story. [18:03] Just because you made a mistake does not make you a mistake. People equate their mistakes to who they are. But there’s a difference between behavior and who you are. Who you are is this special being created by God. Just because you made a foolish action, that does not make you a fool. One of the things you need to do is separate those two and make sure that you tell yourself a positive story. Step 3: Take care of yourself [18:38] Practice self-care. The more you serve yourself, the more you can serve others. If you take good care of yourself, then the more you can take good care of others. Go to the salon, get a foot massage, buy yourself something nice, or whatever it is. Do something that tells your spirit that you matter and are valued because self-esteem is about self-worth. You need to refer to yourself as a worthy being by doing nice things to yourself. Step 4: Forgive Yourself and Others [20:45] If you don’t forgive others, then you’re allowing that poison to stay in your system, and you will feel bad. And then you stay in that negative loop of a story, that forgiving yourself is also very important. Because when we mess up, we feel very bad. And then we keep criticizing ourselves. So it’s time to forgive yourself and move on. Step 5: Be of Value to Others [21:28] Know that you adding value to others make you feel so good. Step 6: Catch yourself doing Something Good [22:39] Catch yourself doing something right. Appreciate yourself and enjoy the moment. Often, we spend our time criticizing the one thing where we messed up. But try to know how you can get better. Congratulate yourself for all the good that you’re doing. Catch yourself for doing something good and celebrate. Action Point [23:14] Raise your self-esteem and rate it from 0 to 10, where 10 is world-class self-esteem, and 0 is nowhere. Then identify at least three strategies from this presentation that you can implement right away, and use the five-step model above to improve your self-esteem. Key Advice [24:02] You are a child of God, and you’re God’s ambassador. Therefore, if you’re a child of God, then you have to appreciate yourself, love yourself, and remind yourself that you are truly loved unconditionally. You have to do as much as possible to love yourself unconditionally. [24:59] Remember that you’re unique. People can have their opinions, and they are entitled to their opinion. They have a right to express themselves. But you also have a responsibility to restore your confidence and self-esteem. You must honor, appreciate, love, and take care of yourself. If you do that, then you’ll be able to love and take care of the world.